Self-confidence is the belief in one’s ability to
succeed.
Two main things contribute to self-confidence:
Ø Self-efficacy
Ø Self-esteem.
Self-efficacy
Self-efficacy is defined as people's beliefs about
their capabilities to produce designated levels of performance that exercise
influence over events that affect their lives. It is a person's judgment about
being able to perform a particular activity. Self-efficacy beliefs determine
how people feel, think, motivate themselves and behave. High self-efficacy in
one area may not coincide with high self-efficacy in another area
A strong sense of efficacy enhances human
accomplishment and personal well-being in many ways. High self-efficacy people
set themselves challenging goals and maintain strong commitment to them. They
attribute failure to insufficient effort or deficient knowledge and skills
which are acquirable. They approach threatening situations with assurance that
they can exercise control over them. Such an efficacious outlook produces
personal accomplishments, reduces stress and lowers vulnerability to
depression.
In contrast, people who doubt their capabilities
shy away from difficult tasks which they view as personal threats. They slacken
their efforts and give up quickly in the face of difficulties. They are slow to
recover their sense of efficacy following failure or setbacks. Because they
view insufficient performance as deficient aptitude it does not require much
failure for them to lose faith in their capabilities. They fall easy victim to
stress and depression.
Self-esteem.
Self-esteem is often seen as a personality trait,
which means that it tends to be stable and enduring. Self-esteem can involve a
variety of beliefs about the self, such as the appraisal of one's own
appearance, beliefs, emotions, and behaviours. It is an essential human need
that is vital for survival and normal, healthy development which arises
automatically from within based upon a person's beliefs and consciousness.
Some people believe that
self-confidence can be built with affirmations and positive thinking. It
may be true but it is just as important to build self-confidence by setting and
achieving goals.
In management field there is a formula to judge
strategically challenging situations that is SWOT – Strength, Weakness,
Opportunities and Threat. Any common man can apply this formula to overcome
their problems.
Ø Don’t
stand on your shoes to look your strength and weakness.
Ø Look
at your opportunities inside and outside your control.
Ø Threats
may be inside you and around you, take a keen look.
Try these options on each and every problem.
Primarily understand your problem, then analyze it, attack the problem and
arrest it.
Building Self-Confidence
Building self confidence is not a easy game. It is a drilled thoughts inside the mind, brain and soul.
The good news is that becoming more self-confident is readily achievable, just as long as you have the focus and determination to carry things through. And what’s even better is that the things you’ll do to build your self-confidence will also build success – after all, your confidence will come from real, solid achievement. No-one can take this away from you!
Confidence attributes:
Your level of self-confidence can show in many ways:
Ø Behaviour
Ø Body language
Ø Way of Communication etc.,
Comparison charts between self confident Vs low self confident
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SELF - CONFIDENCE
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LOW SELF -
CONFIDENCE
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Doing what you believe to be right, even if
others mock or criticize you for it.
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Governing your behaviour based on what other
people think.
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Being willing to take risks and go the extra mile
to achieve better things.
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Staying in your comfort zone, fearing failure,
and so avoid taking risks.
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Admitting your mistakes, and learning from them.
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Working hard to cover up mistakes and hoping that
you can fix the problem before anyone notices.
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Waiting for others to congratulate you on your
accomplishments.
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Extolling your own virtues as often as possible
to as many people as possible.
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Accepting compliments graciously. “Thanks, I
really worked hard on that prospectus. I’m pleased you recognize my efforts.”
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Dismissing compliments offhandedly. “Oh that
prospectus was nothing really, anyone could have done it.”
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Tips for Improving Self-Confidence
1.
Good number of success is the step for
confidence
2.
Light the pathway for success in you day
to day life.
3.
Take a role model of a successful
person but don’t imitate them.
4.
Deliver your speech with confidence at
any point of time.
5.
Action speaks better than word.
Rescuing confidence
1.
Leave the unachievable goals for a
while and focus on confidently achievable goals.
2.
Think on the past success and work
accordingly.
3.
Carry a positive attitude that the
target will be reached.
4.
Analyse the competency within you and
plan for the next step.
5.
Do not lose your temper.
Self confidence tips for teens:
C Acknowledge and welcome all of your experiences – the good stuff as well
as the bad stuff. It’s all equally valid and hiding things away because
you don’t like them is just creating conflict.
C When you feel like stamping your foot and yelling “I deserve better than
this!”, take a step back and say “I can BE better than this.”
C Forget the pro’s and con’s – do something bold in the face of your
challenges and fears.
C Shy with new people? Not a problem, there’s nothing wrong with
being shy and it doesn’t mean you’re not confident. Just don’t over think
it, start beating you up or thinking you’re less than because you’re shy – the
more you think like that the worse it gets.
C Your environment directly impacts your self-perception, so if you’re
surrounded by clutter, paperwork and rubbish put a morning aside to clean up
your stuff and get organised.
C Your strengths can be used to overcome any of your weaknesses. We
all have weaknesses but they only undermine your confidence if you let them.
C Being confident is an ongoing process. It isn’t a goal or an
end-point that you reach and then stop. Keep playing to the best of your
ability and your confidence will always be there to support you.
C Your body image does matter, because if you have a bad
relationship with your body you won’t be feeling confident in
yourself. Get trim if you need to, just make sure you get along with your
body.
C Look at the people you respect who seem confident – don’t copy them, but
identify what it is they do differently that conveys confidence and what you
can learn from it.
C Make a plan to do something, and
then make deliberate choices to follow through. Seeing progress gives you
important self-reinforcement.
Famous quotes
on Confidence by Indians from different fields
Talk to yourself once in day... otherwise you may
miss meeting an excellent person in this world
True guidance is like a small torch in a dark
forest. It doesn’t show everything once. But gives enough light for the next
step to be safe.
-
Swami Vivekananda
The history of the world is full of instances of
men who rose to leadership by sheer force of self confidence, bravery and
tenacity
-
M. K. Gandhi
If you don’t build your dream, someone else will
hire you to help them build theirs
-
Dhirubhai Ambhani
Action to be effective must be directed to clearly
conceived ends
-
Jawaharlal Nehru
Every individual has his own
style, his own way of presenting himself on and off the field.
- Sachin Tendulkar
“I never predict what will happen in cricket. We
believe in each other and we believe in the process. We will take each game in
the right frame of mind.”
-
Mahendra Singh Dhoni
Failure is a given part of life, there is no way
you can control the future the only thing you can control is how you get over
it.
- Actor R. Madhavan (Maddy)
Be confident. Too many days are wasted comparing ourselves
to others and wishing to be something we aren't. Everybody has their own
strengths and weaknesses, and it's only when you accept everything you are -
and aren't - that you will truly succeed."
-Unknown
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